Coming Home Day

Written by Drew on November 14th, 2006

What should churches do with their delinquent members? This question plagues every church leader who holds a genuine concern for the members of his flock. There is no question that wayward brethren are in a perilous condition. “For if, after they have escaped the defilements of the world through the knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, they are again entangled in them and overcome,” Peter says, “the last state has become worse for them than the first” (2 Pet. 2:20).

Some churches choose to ignore this problem. They soothe their consciences by telling themselves that members disappear by their own choice, and there is nothing that can be done to bring them back.

Others take a casual approach, keeping track of who is missing and giving these members a call when they have been away for more than a week or two. This approach is usually effective in getting weaker brethren back into service. But it also creates a dangerous dependency, where some are coming to church on Sundays just to avoid an uncomfortable phone conversation with Brother Jones.

A great number of churches use the disciplinary action prescribed in the New Testament for Christians that have slipped into a sinful lifestyle (cf. Mt. 18:15-17; 1 Cor. 5; 2 Thes. 3:6-15). There is a debate over whether poor attendance should qualify as a sin deserving of discipline. I believe it does, but I also agree that the last resort in Christ’s formula for church discipline–withdrawing fellowship–has little effect on a member who has already withdrawn himself from his brothers and sisters in Christ. Churches that succeed in using this method usually do so on the grounds of the initial stages of the plan.

Several months ago I heard about a new strategy for bringing unfaithful Christians back to the Lord through my friend Todd Clippard, who preaches for the Burleson Church of Christ. He called it Coming Home Day. The occasion is not to be confused with Homecoming Day, which is a day on which friends and family are invited to leave their home congregations to visit for a short period and then return to their respective places. Coming Home Day invites wayward brethren to come home where they belong, and stay.

We took Todd’s idea and implemented it at Ashville Road, with a few alterations to suit our situation. The effort began with the printing of “Come Home Cards.” These were published in our bulletin, and extra copies were made available in the foyer. Our members were asked to use them to report names, addresses, and phone numbers of members of the church in our area who were not attending church anywhere. Of course, we already had a record of those who had placed membership at Ashville Road, but we were hoping to glean more names through the network of our membership. The cards were a success: we received about a dozen names in addition to the number we already had on hand.

The next step was to plan a visitation meeting in which we would assign visits using the names from our “Come Home Cards” and the church’s records. The meeting was scheduled on a Sunday night, about thirty minutes before the evening services began. At the meeting I walked our volunteers through the process of making these visits. Invitations should be cordial and friendly. The one making the visit should explain the purpose of Coming Home Day, that it was an effort to bring members of the church home. At the same time, the conversation should be kept brief, and the words should be spoken in love.

Leading up to the special day, I preached two sermons on the subject of unfaithful Christians and a church’s responsibility towards them. These were intended to motivate our church to pray, write cards, make phone calls, and visit the brothers and sisters who were the focus of these efforts.

On November 12, the date that had been set for Coming Home Day, I preached a lesson entitled, “The Man Who Came Back.” It was about John Mark and traced his journey away from the Lord’s work and back again. I was pleased to see quite a few of our members who had not been to services in a long time. During the invitation song, two actually came forward and confessed sin. These were welcomed back with open arms. Some of the others, I believe, will also be restored in the coming weeks.

The whole process of getting names, making the visits and calls, and hosting the event took five weeks. It was well worth the effort. Basically, Coming Home Day is an exercise that follows the first two steps of Jesus’ formula for church discipline (Mt. 18:15-17). In my judgment, it is a good way to reach out to these lost brethren without using the emotionally-charged language that often accompanies a church’s attempts to bring their straying sheep back into the fold.

 

4 Comments so far ↓

  1. Josh Woods says:

    Coming Home Day sounds like a brilliant church program, Drew!

    Sadly, “church discipline” has been an often-misunderstood practice, and churches, as a result, have either avoided it or abused it. It seems that the most common perception of “church discipline” involves a confrontational home visit from stodgy elders sporting cheap suits and comb-overs. But that’s it at all – it’s supposed to be a heartfelt invitation to return home.

    There’s also a misunderstanding of when “church discipline” should be practiced. Too often, we’ve mistaken a sinful action as the sole grounds for withdrawal of fellowship. For example, a member has an affair, and the elders tell them they’d better get their act together or they’ll be shown to the door.

    If a church member basically says he or she no longer cares to please God, that’s a big deal, and withdrawal of fellowship may be necessary. But too often, the sinner is hurting and wants deeply to do what’s right. He or she has simply gotten stuck in a bad situation – perhaps at their own fault – and needs the love and patience of the church family to help pull them out. To do otherwise is not disciplining the member – it’s turning our back on them.

  2. Jason T. Carter says:

    Hey Drew, just found your blog today. Keep up the good work.

  3. Scott says:

    What a great idea. Thanks for the post Drew.

  4. russ says:

    simple and practical, I love it. Can you address how specifially the congregation grew from it?

    russ

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