Ava Isabella

Written by Drew on July 27th, 2005

Ava Isabella was born July 12, 2005 at 1:00 pm. She weighed six pounds, 12 ounces and measured 20 1/2 inches in length. After years of prayers, Julie and I received the child we believe was made just for us.

We adopted Ava through Agape, a Christian organization that specializes in adoption, foster care, and counseling for unwed mothers. The adoption process began in January 2004, making it last nineteen months. We were pleased with Agape’s concern and professionalism, although there were times when we grew impatient with how long things were taking.

A date was set one week from Ava’s birthday for us to pick up our new daughter at the Agape offices in Enterprise, AL. But before we were scheduled to get Ava, we had to meet the birth parents. We were extremely nervous about this, but it turned out to be a good experience. Instead of fantasizing about who this couple was, we were able to see them in the flesh. As it turned out, they were very friendly. Emotions were high, of course, but we were able to ask questions and share what we were feeling. The best thing about the meeting is that, when Ava asks about her birth parents in the future, we will be able to tell her we met them and worked with them as a team to place her in our home.

After we met the birth parents we went to lunch with the Agape staff and filled out some paperwork. Then it was time to see our daughter. She was even more beautiful in person than in the pictures we saw. We have had her now for about a week and are overjoyed that God has blessed us with this wonderful new life.

I will be posting updates about Ava from time to time on this blog. Keep watching for developments.


3 Comments so far ↓

  1. Andy says:

    The announcement of your daughter set me to thinking again about child rearing. You have a wonderful experience ahead of you, or it could be a road of sadness and sorrow. It will be what you and your wife make it.

    It seems early in the year, but schools are starting up again. Parents will be making their children get out of bed. They will make them eat breakfast and brush their teeth. Moms and dads will stand over their kids watching them complete their homework (which they may not even have in our day of permissiveness). They will drive them to ball practice and other extracurricular events. They will make them go to school even when they whine and even if they have a slight headache…and they should.

    Parents should make their children go to school, because it is for their good. Fathers and mothers do not think that such encouragement will make their youth resent the education they receive. Learning and discipline are valuable. The parents know it, and the children will too when they mature. Before that time comes, however, parents will not leave it to immature children to decide for themselves whether or not to bathe, brush their teeth, eat their vegetables, or go to school and study math. They realize that in youth one is not mature enough to make the best decisions on some important matters.

    What parents often fail to realize, however, is the importance of spiritual training and their role in it. By inspiration Solomon wrote, “Train up (i.e., begin or initiate) a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6). A word for “should” was not found in the Hebrew text of Proverbs. Actually, this well-known verse says, “Initiate a child according to his/her general tendencies and, when he/she has reached old age, he/she will not abandon what has become second nature to him/her.” As God’s word is perfectly harmonious, this passage is in full accord with the inspired teachings of Ephesians and Colossians where Ephesians 6:4 says, “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” Colossians 3:21 adds, “Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.” As a new parent, sir, two things must be noticed from these two instructional verses: 1) Dad, it is your responsibility, and 2) It is according to the Lord’s teaching that your child must be reared.

    I love Ava. Though she is just one month old, she is precious to me. She is my granddaughter, but she is your daughter. She is your responsibility, not mine. You are her father, not I. The God-given responsibility of nurturing her in body and soul is yours, neither your mother’s nor mine. I will always love her, and I will shower her with many gifts of many different kinds for the rest of her life. I will tell her and show her how much I love her, just as I have always done for you, but she is your daughter. Bring her up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord, and begin now before she interest in other things come to rob her soul of a love for the Lord.

    Judith Martin, under the appellation of “Miss Manners,” was recently reported in The Birmingham News to say, “Parents will do anything for their children. Anything,…short of actual child-rearing” (Sunday, July 10, 2005). Martin said further, “It’s not that parents don’t realize that their children need to learn manners, morals, and how to refrain from repulsing those in position to give them degrees, riches and happiness. They simply do not see teaching these as being their job.” Son, know better; it is your job. This is not the work of the church, and, certainly, we do not want Ava to be nurtured by public school teachers who do not know God nor by politicians who can’t seem to do anything more than get reelected.

    Drew, the evidence is in. You will be a great father.

  2. charles cochran says:

    Drew and Julie, We are so very thankful for the providence of the Lord being so evident in bringing precious Ava into your lives. She has blessed all our lives in a beautiful way. We believe that prayer is powerful and that the Lord will answer “according to His will.” We are so very humbled by what has transpired the past month. To see the answer to prayer unfold before our very eyes causes us to be filled with gratitude to a gracious God. It is almost unbelievable how things “work together for good” to those who “love the Lord.” We are so thankful that Ava has come to your home where your love for
    one another and the Lord is so evident. Those who “wait on the Lord” will truly find blessings beyond their ability to imagine. This “gift from heaven” is blessed to be in your home. As grandparents, we are filled with pride and happiness fo you and Ava. Charles and Ginny Cochran

  3. Anonymous says:

    May God bless precious Ava Isabella as her sweet parents rear her “in the training and admonition of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4). Jana and Eric Lyons

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